Proactive Versus Reactive: The Key to a Fulfilling Life
If you feel unfulfilled at work or are unhappy with the direction in which your life is moving, you are not alone. Whether it’s about fitness, careers or personal relationships, most people know that something is missing from their life but can’t put their finger on it. The key to living the life you want is to stop being reactive and to start being proactive, learning to control your destiny.
The Problem With Being Reactive
Remaining reactive to life will prevent you from reaching your goals and realising your true potential, and you don't want to fall into that trap. You will only address problems when they present themselves, and you will survive but not enjoy everything that this world has to offer.
For example, reactive people will wait until they are unfulfilled at work before making a change. They might put in the effort to find a new job and be satisfied for a while, but lasting happiness will be just out of reach as the same itch or need to move arises.
The key point here is you are 'forced' in to acting by circumstances which often leave you with little choice in the situation. Being proactive in that same example would have led to surveying jobs from a position of strength and even happiness looking for jobs that align with your goals and values.
How to Be Proactive
Rather than being driven by negativity, being proactive is about visualising your preferred circumstances and finding ways to turn them into a reality. Your first task is to grab pen and paper so that you can write down what you are looking for.
Since nobody will read it, you can be completely open and honest with yourself. Consider where you want to work and live, but you should also think about the type of friends you would like to have etc.
Can you rewire yourself to move towards that life instead of away from the one you are now? Flipping the narrative to what would make you feel good instead of thinking about what doesn't make you feel good should put you in a better place mentally to start off with.
I don't know about you but I always feel better thinking about things that make me happy vs the worst case scenario!
Truth be told its not easy to do this, but once you practice framing life in the way of 'I want to feel/ do/ become/ experience' you will find it easier to make decisions. The path to those desires will stick out prominently when they come about.
For example, if you really want adventure and only mildly dislike being uncomfortable then when the next road trip suggestion comes up why not push past your comfort instinct and say yes?